I’ve been reading a lot of “lists” about lifelong friends, soul mates, and BFFs. But they all reference 21st century friendships. The lists include Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat. I’d like to take a moment and tell you what a true lifelong friendship looks like. I’ve taken the liberty of modifying several of these lists.
Let me start by telling you that my literal lifelong friend and I have known each other for 44 years. That’s right. Long before the turn of the century. Before social media. Even before cable TV and VCRs. So here goes:
1. The fact that no matter how much time or distance separates us, we always pick up where we left off when we get together again.
2. She has befriended my parents on a first-name basis. After all, we were adopted into each other’s family.
3. We are able to communicate with just a look; finish each other’s sentence; or state a one-line movie quote from the 1970’s that has each other burst into laughter because we “understand” what that means. Yes, all the inside jokes are still funny.
4. She has witnessed fashion faux pas and bad haircuts, and she still hung around. In fact, our friendship is “older than disco.”
5. We hung out together when our parents had to drive us to the movies and before we could buy alcohol.
6. We were there for each other through that one heartbreak that we made too big a deal over. And the one that we are embarrassed to admit we ever dated.
7. We are comfortable with silence, and personal space is meaningless. We can sit cuddled up together on the couch not saying a word because we are just happy to be in each other’s presence.
8. We never keep tabs on who owes what in terms of drinks or gifts. At the end of the day we know “it will all work out in the end.”
9. Our husbands watch us with a bemused look on their face because we have known each other longer than we’ve known them. Plus, they are getting a look inside of who we were as children; someone that they will never truly know.
10. She has never judged me when I made a bad decision. She was there to support me through my darkest times. She loves me no matter what.
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